Why do people do this to me?


Pancakes & Rice ~ Aunt Jemima & Uncle Ben

Voice of the African American Female

We grew up with these brands, we never thought anything of them other than Uncle Ben meant rice & Aunt Jemima was an insult in addition to a pancake brand.  Today, Quaker Oats is in the news because the family of one of the women depicted on the pancake brand is demanding to be paid for her being jilted out of the money the company has earned by using her likeness.

Quaker Oats is saying that they can’t find the contracts that were negotiated for the use of her likeness therefore in their minds, they don’t exist so the family is not entitled to any payment.  Ok, why did this catch my attention?  First because of the irony, QUAKER oats….Quaker.  What? You don’t get it?  Alright, here it is, first of all Quakers were the first vanilla folks to condemn slavery so I find it quite ironic that a company…

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Why I Stay

Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed


Submitted by ~ Anonymous~

I dream of the day when the chains are released
When I’ll say with pride, “I’m free from the beast.”
The mind games are over, no longer ignored.
With my head held high, I’ll walk toward the door.

I want it; I need it. I see it so clearly.
But then he strikes again, and it’s suddenly bleary.
He twists and turns things- am I losing my mind?
Did I imagine that slight? Am I stupid or blind?

I am filled with self-loathing, fear and doubt.
I want a better life; I want to get out.
It’s been a long time since I’ve been on my own.
And as hard as this is, it’s all I’ve known.

You get angry with me; you think it’s so easy.
“Just leave him already!” you say feeling queasy.
And “I wouldn’t take that,” you quietly think.
But it shows…

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Voice for Recovery, and Addiction

Voice of Recovery from Addiction

I humbly apologize for being away for a hot minute. It seems that I got sober and I became responsible and extremely busy…LOL

Living in sobriety can be a tricky thing. For some people, the very beginning of their recovery is the hardest. You have to break through the walls of denial, some go through withdrawals, still other’s have a problem getting out of their own heads in order to move forward. I can only speak for myself when I say for “me” the beginning was fairly easy. After seeing that video tape of my last drunk, there was no more denial I could hide behind. I instantly became ready to do whatever I needed to do in order to achieve sobriety. It didn’t matter if I understood the process at the time, I did it because my sponsor suggested it.

For “me” the journey in recovery / sobriety went…

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pagan/ wiccan holidays

Pagan Voice

Here’s a list of recognized pagan/Wiccan holidays.

  • Samihan- called Halloween today, but is known as the ending of the Celtic year. Behind at sunset October 31. Also called the feast of the dead. It is believed the veil between both worlds is thinned and it is considered this time is the best time for divination.
  • Winte solstice or Yule- around December 21- a time of death and rebirth of the sun god. The days are at its shortest and the sun is at its lowest point. The full moon after Yule its considered the most powerful of the whole year.
  • Imbole- February 1st or the first full moon in Aquarius.
  • Spring equinox or ostara (eostara- Wicca)- around March 21- light and darkness are in balance but light is growing stronger.
  • Beltaine (May day, Lady day)- around May 1st or the first full moon on Taurus. Primarily is a fertility festival…

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Do…. Dont… communication tips

Voice for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing

So your worried about interaction between hearing and not quite hearing. If you are hearing impaired the best thing is be upfront…. Dont pretend to hear. you might miss something important.

Ask the best way to interact
Have paper and pencil ready
Write in short simple sentences
Watch facial expressions, eye gaze
Repeat if needed
Be patient in communication
Look directly at the person, keeping your hands away from your face and face toward the deaf person
Be friendly; they merit the same respect as anyone else


Don’t assume communication is occurring correctly (nodding does not always mean they understand or agree)
Don’t pretend to understand if you do not.
Don’t exaggerate your mouth movements.
Don’t yell
Don’t have objects in your mouth or cover your mouth while speaking.
Don’t speak to a deaf person with your back to a light, window, or mirror.
Do not refer to…

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A Culture of Violence (Violence Warning)

Voice of American Women's Rights

I must admit that the preeminent reason that I stay on “the straight and narrow” is the deterrent effect of prison. There have been times when I have considered actions that might be illegal, but the thought of going to prison slowed me right down!

I wish that I could say that I am a non-violent individual, but I cannot. I often think about doing really bad things to people; but I don’t because … well, I don’t want to be incarcerated.

Over the last several weeks there have been many conversations about what is, and is not domestic violence. Some folks reference their families of origin as a rationale for their behavior. This has caused me to think about this thing called “a culture of violence”.

My mother would relate the following story to me as I was growing up: My Great-Aunt Bess was often abused by her husband…

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